As a happy relationship and divorce coach, my mission is to guide individuals and couples through the intricacies of their relationships, helping them find joy, connection, and personal growth.
Drawing from my own experiences and professional expertise, I offer advice rooted in empathy, understanding, and practical strategies.
In today's world, successful marriages require more than just romantic gestures; they demand skills that foster lasting, meaningful connections. Both my husband and I are in our second marriages, having learned valuable lessons from our previous relationships. We understand that no one is perfect and that learning from past mistakes and prioritising the right investments is crucial to making a marriage happy.
Here are a few essential abilities we emphasize in our current relationship:
1. Healthy Communication Practices: Listening actively, expressing emotions constructively, and resolving conflicts peacefully are foundational to strong relationships. We make it a point to put our phones (electric gadgets switched off) away and give each other our full attention during conversations, ensuring that communication remains clear and respectful.
2. Understanding Past Influences: Recognising and understanding how past experiences shape behavior in relationships is vital for personal growth and mutual understanding. We both learned from our previous marriages that controlling relationships are unsustainable and often lead to unhappiness. Thus, we prioritise freedom and trust, knowing they must coexist for a healthy partnership.
3. Commitment to Self-Improvement: Committing to ongoing self-improvement shows a willingness to evolve and adapt within the partnership. I married young and had children early, which meant I missed out on many personal experiences. Similarly, my husband was career-minded and let work and family life consume his time. Now, we both set aside time to pursue activities that bring us joy, invest in exploring missed opportunities, and respect each other's space and time.
4. Cultivating Empathy: Fostering empathy towards your partner's needs strengthens the bond between you. My upbringing did not permit the free expression of emotions, making it difficult for me to understand or appreciate feelings. In contrast, my husband grew up in an environment where emotions were openly expressed and understood. In this second phase of life, I have worked on accepting, expressing, and being open about my feelings. Embracing change and being the change you wish to see is crucial for a fulfilling relationship.
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By honing these skills, couples can navigate the complexities of modern marriage with grace, resilience, and mutual respect, paving the way for a fulfilling and enduring partnership.
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