When a parent suppresses their own emotions, the child often becomes the vessel for those suppressed feelings. On the other hand, when parents are happy and content in their relationship, the child thrives and flourishes.
“When a parent suppresses, a child expresses.”
I recently had the opportunity to work with a young person whose parents were struggling with their own emotional turmoil. The young persons behavior was a clear reflection of the tension and unhappiness in the household. It became evident to me that in order to truly help the young person, I needed to start by working with the parents.
During the initial sessions, I asked the parents to focus on themselves and their own emotional well-being. It was eye-opening to hear the parents admit that they had been neglecting their own issues, thinking that they could deal with them later, once they were done raising their child. But the truth is, how can you effectively raise a child when you yourself are broken and carrying unresolved issues?
"Parents' emotions lay the foundation, children's actions paint the picture."
Trying to fix things temporarily with superficial solutions is like using glue on a broken vase - it may hold for a while, but the cracks will always show. Suppressing emotions only adds more layers to the complexity, turning unresolved issues into deep-rooted traumas over time. It's time for parents to peel back the layers, address the root causes, and create a solid foundation of emotional well-being for themselves and their children.
It is crucial for parents to understand the impact of their own behavior on their children. By taking care of themselves and addressing their own emotional needs, parents can create a loving and nurturing environment in which their child can thrive. It is never too late to work on yourself and set a positive example for your child. After all, when parents heal, children heal too. Kajal Kaj
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