The Conversations We Avoid Are Often the Ones That Heal

Have you ever found yourself hesitating to ask someone something important?

Maybe you paused before questioning a friend who’s been distant,

or avoided raising a topic with a family member that’s been sitting like a stone in your chest for years.

Why?

Because we don’t want to offend.

We don’t want to be seen as difficult, dramatic, or confrontational. So instead we smile, stay silent and walk on eggshells and slowly, we begin to abandon our own truth.

There’s a line between being respectful of others’ feelings and being disrespectful to ourselves.

We tell ourselves:

“I’ll let it go… it’s not worth it.”

“I don’t want to create drama.”

“What if they get hurt?”

But in the name of keeping peace outside, we create chaos inside, and we begin to live relationships on the surface, polite, performative, safe and anything unspoken becomes a quiet crack in the foundation.

What Are We So Afraid Of?

Let’s be honest, we avoid certain conversations because we fear:

• Being misunderstood

• Being labelled as ‘too sensitive’ or ‘too much’

• Losing love or connection

• Creating discomfort in a relationship that’s already fragile

And here’s the truth! Authentic relationships require tension sometimes, not the kind that breaks bonds, but the kind that bends them long enough to build resilience.

If someone is truly in your life - a friend, a partner, a parent, even a grown child,

then we must feel safe enough to ask questions like:

• Why didn’t you show up when I needed you?

• Can we talk about what happened last week? It’s been sitting heavy on me.

• Why do I feel so alone even when I’m around you?

• How can I love you better, and how can you love me better?

These aren’t accusations, these are invitations.

Invitations to connect, to understand, and to repair. If we’re calling someone “family” or “friend” or “partner” but can’t speak our heart…

then what exactly are we protecting?

One of the most powerful tools I’ve embraced in my work and life is Love Language awareness.

We all give and receive love differently through words, actions, time, gifts, or touch.

When we don’t understand someone’s love language (or our own), we misread each other.

We think they don’t care when in reality, they’re just speaking a different emotional dialect.

By integrating love language awareness into our communication, we create more compassion, more clarity, and fewer assumptions, and that’s exactly what awkward conversations need:

💬 Courage

💬 Compassion

💬 Clarity

Here’s what I’ve learned both from my personal life and through coaching clients:

👉 Avoiding the hard questions may keep things “okay” temporarily, but eventually, it creates emotional distance, and worse — it disconnects you from yourself.

Relationships are not about perfection or constant harmony, they’re about truthful communication, even when it’s uncomfortable, especially when it’s uncomfortable.

Before we can talk to someone else honestly, we have to build a relationship with ourselves first.

I know this because I lived it. Years ago, before I went through my own divorce, I had to confront my relationship with fear. Fear of being alone, fear of judgment, fear of the unknown.

I had to face my anxiety, my lack of self-worth, and the deep void I carried for years, only then could I step into the conversations that mattered

with my husband, my children, my family, and finally, with my own heart.

Let’s Rewrite the Meaning of “Awkward” Let’s reframe:

Awkward conversations are not problems.

They are portals to deeper intimacy.

They’re where the healing begins.

They’re how trust is built.

They’re where we find out if someone is truly willing to grow with us, or just stay comfortable around us.

So the next time you feel the tension rising in your throat, the question you want to ask but hesitate, pause and remember, your voice matters. Ask the question, start the conversation, lean in because the right people won’t run away from your truth, they’ll make space for it.

💛 Ready to Have the Conversations That Heal?

Whether you’re navigating a romantic relationship, family dynamics, or simply the relationship with yourself, I support people in creating conscious communication, emotional stability, and real connection.

You don’t have to do it alone.

Let’s talk.

📩 DM or message me to begin your healing journey.